It’s been almost two years since I posted something here. It’s truly amazing how fast time passes by when you’re in the middle of parenthood! Speaking of which, I can’t believe my son will turn 4 this November. Wow! Being a mom is the hardest and best thing I’ve ever done, and I wouldn’t change it for anything.
My son has taught me a lot in these few years. I’ve learned that I can function on zero sleep (although, not well) and how much fun I can still have as an adult. My husband and I have laughed so much with our son. His sense of humor is priceless. He’s also very intelligent, and is quick to point out driving directions to church, his grandparents’ house, friends’ houses, the beach, our favorite ice cream place, or miniature golf.
One thing my son’s taught me is how to slow down. Before he came into our lives, I felt like I was always in a rush. That everything needed to be done right now. But of course, with a baby, and now toddler, I’ve learned that getting everything done, right now, is not possible. And it’s okay. The world hasn’t ended because I haven’t finished my to-do list.
How freeing that is! Now, as he gets older and I can do more things, that doesn’t always mean I should. The more time I spend doing other things, the less quality time I spend with him, my husband, or other loved ones. But it usually takes me a couple of go-rounds before I realize I’ve overloaded my schedule . . . again.
And I wonder why I don’t have time for writing. Currently, I’m trying to finish a couple of novels, but that won’t happen if I continue mixing up my priorities. Of course, I’m not saying that household responsibilities and such aren’t important, but they’re not THE most important tasks. By slowing down my pace, I can focus better on finishing one task at a time . . . even if it takes all day. I enjoy it when my son interrupts whatever I’m doing. He’s growing up so fast, and I don’t want to miss out on anything.
Last night he came to me while I was in the middle of cleaning up the kitchen from dinner, and I would’ve preferred to just finish it so I wouldn’t have to think about it anymore. But I welcomed his interruption and what I got out of it was a strong, sweet hug around my leg; and, music videos of him singing songs that he just randomly made up. These videos are ones we’ll laugh at for days and weeks to come. Man, it hurts a little in my heart knowing what I would’ve missed out on if I told him “not now” or “wait.”
I do have a *few* minutes of free time, so I’m going to get back to work. To be honest, I’m extremely tempted to toss in another load of laundry, and pick up some of my son’s toys so I can vacuum. But if I push those things off until tonight or tomorrow, it doesn’t change a single thing. But it will take away from the little bit of time I do have to write. By taking this brief time to work on writing, it will help me to feel at peace and therefore, I’m a more peaceful person to be around my son later . . . which benefits us both!
I want to encourage you to slow down your pace for a short while and see what that could do for your inner peace and creativity, even if you don’t have a spouse or kid(s).